The latest study has
shown that drinking 5-8 cups of coffee a day is
great for you.
Wowwwwww. It's probably
true though, since it would have someone
flyinnnggg through their day getting tons done.
No sickness could catch
up with them moving at that pace. Though it is
possible they might move so fast they would
catch something, themselves.
They also say caffeine
is good because it's loaded with Antioxidants.
These days I'm happy if it's loaded with any
-Anti - as long as it's not anti-Semitism.
Best of all they say it
greatly prevents something. But what it is I
can't seem to remember. Oh yeah... I remember,
Every week they publish
another study reversing some former information.
If you stop reading for one week you may lose
track of where you are up to. You might be
overeating tuna, under drinking red wine, over
doing exercise, under doing exercise......
It's really hard to
figure out what to do!
They say Tea is
terrific for taking out carpet stains but then
again it stains your teeth. And since you spend
much more time drinking tea than spilling it,
you may want to reconsider that habit.
Studies show walking is
really good for you. They say it's Heart
healthy! That's true as long as you’re not
Walking -out on someone you care about. Then the
aggravation could be so overwhelming you could
They say Cell phones are
not necessarily proven safe yet. Well it's a
little late to bring that up. How would anyone
reach anyone? After all they've ripped out every
single pay phone, everywhere. And no one under
the age of thirty even owns a home phone or is
willing to answer one anyway. We'd be back to
communicating with smoke signals!
Studies show there are
more accidents on the road then on a plane. Well
-Not if you were sitting near the kid I flew
next to last trip.
Whose doing these
studies anyway? Don't they have anything better
to do with their time. Oh I know they're
drinking so much caffeine they have nothing but
time on their hands. After all, they can't be
Somehow we keep coming
out with new stats and bottom lines but we keep
finding new problems to study.
I propose we try studying this -
moderation, caution, and prayer, laced with
smiles and laughter whenever possible.
And then let's see how
that measures up to all the other studies!!!
I would love to hear
your opinion on all this- how about meeting for
a cup of coffee, I've got plenty cups left in my
5 Strategies to Find Balance in Life
If you think going to the gym is a guilty
pleasure, read this article.
Balancing marriage, parenting, work, and
life responsibilities can feel like a
high-wire act. Our children need us, our
spouses expect us to be there for them, and
then there are parents, jobs, financial
pressures and daily obligations pulling at
us all at the same time. This does not even
begin to address our desire to take care of
ourselves. Carving personal time out for a
gym class or quiet cappuccino in a coffee
shop seems as if we are seeking guilty
Some nights we lie awake
thinking to ourselves that nobody in this
family is happy because each person believes
I am there more for the others – and this
Here are five strategies for successfully
juggling our relationships and commitments:
1. Take Care
In case of an emergency on a plane you
must first place the oxygen mask over
yourself and only then can you begin to take
care of your children. If you are not
breathing you are of no help to anyone else.
If you feel as if you are choking, your
family will feel it. Begin by taking care of
yourself. Be committed to your mental,
emotional, physical and spiritual health.
Make a plan and set real goals. Stop
overlooking yourself. This is not selfish
and self-centered; it isnota
guilty pleasure. Look at it instead as
giving your family the greatest gift
possible: The gift of a joyful ‘you’.
When we feel pressured we snap at the
people in our lives. Family and friends
become the most convenient targets. As we
push loved ones away, a cycle begins where
we start to feel isolated and alone. Our
relationships suffer. Those closest to us
who can help us find calm in the storm grow
Instead of getting angry at our partners,
set aside time to speak together in a calm
moment. Concentrate on your tone and body
language. Be careful not to speak
impatiently or seem standoffish. Say, “I
feel like I’m in a pressure cooker right
now. I realize that I may seem snappy and
moody. I am feeling overwhelmed. And while
it’s not an excuse, it is something that is
making me act out. I am in a bad spot and
now I want to work on solutions.”
Show that you are recognizing the problem
instead of living as if this is your normal.
Often our feelings of being overwhelmed
come from being stuck in the same difficult
situation time and time again. The kids are
coming home from school all at the same
time, mornings are out of control, your
spouse is having a hard time in the office
and walks through the door in a grumpy mood.
And these challenges occur each and every
day. The real surprise is why are you once
again caught unaware?
If you can anticipate that the mornings
will be stressful, you can tell yourself
that you know what’s coming. Understanding
that your stressed partner needs time to
unwind before interacting with you prevents
you from getting bent out of shape each
night. You will feel prepared instead of
Anticipation also helps you find
solutions. You can work on a doable plan
instead of throwing up your hands and
feeling as if this is just not possible. If
you envision that nighttime is chaotic and
the house will be noisy when you return home
after a hard day, you are less likely to
lose it because you know what to expect the
moment you walk through the door. And you
can be realistic and set practical ways to
find evening balance instead of exploding.
4. Find Your
Some of us live life in the positive lane
while others only hear negative voices. The
choice is yours. When we ‘awfulize’ our
situation, nothing seems good. We easily
fall into an overwhelming feeling of
discontent. Our minds fill with the worst
case scenario. Even the smallest
difficulties loom large and we don’t think
we will manage.
Here are some negative self-talks to try
and stay away from: “My life is crazy.”
“Nothing ever goes right for me.” “I’ll
never be able to fix this mess.” “I hate my
When you have a cd playing in your head
that makes you feel as if you are living a
miserable life, you lose the positive force
that lies within. Solutions become difficult
to come by. Life seems dark. Joy is a
distant dream that remains unattainable.
The happiest people I know are the most
positive. But living with a positive eye
takes work. When you begin to find yourself
traveling in the negative lane be conscious
of what is happening. Counter the negative
thought with a more confident one.
5. List Your
Priorities and Goals
We spend too much time busying ourselves
with meaningless activities that strip us of
a sense of balance in our day. Surfing the
net, checking Instagram, playing candy
crush, senseless texting are all ways we
find ourselves wasting hours. We don’t begin
to realize how precious our time in this
world is. We take opportunities with family
for granted. Instead of interacting with
loved ones, we forget how to cherish the
simplest moments. Of course we feel
There is too much emotional clutter
clouding our lives. It is time to get
organized and rid ourselves of the mindless
acts that prevent us from living each day to
the max. Begin by thinking about your
priorities. List your most important goals.
How much time do you spend that reflects
your values? And how much time is wasted;
making you feel as if you don’t have enough
hours in the day?
Seeking balance while working on
solutions will help us live with a positive
spirit, feeling energized and better able to
handle life’s challenges.
Can You Flip Your Mind?
Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS
If I stretch out my hand
and give you charity, I am doing the right
But if you extend your
hand to ask from me, I'm not doing as good a
But then again, if it's
on Purim that's ok, because everything's turned
So I guess on Purim I
should wait to be asked in order to do the
It's tough enough
getting it right all year round. Now we have to
deal with vinahapichu -everything reversed!
Bad is good
Good is bad
Serious is bad
Nuts is normal
It's a day where we are
supposed to recognize things aren't what we
think they are.
Think about this. You
prepare for hours -, cook, spice prep, primp!
You look like a million dollars. Your food looks
amazing. Then Your company shows up - early and
stays late. You work to be "on" the whole
night. By the end of the night - you are
totally exhausted and wiped out! So, seriously
when your husband asks, what else I can do for
you, are you going to say: “Oh it would make me
sooooo happy to do this all over again tomorrow
night! What in the world was Queen Esther up
And then suggesting
fasting for three days? I think I'm a hero when
I make it through one hour without food! And on
a full day fast I figure I'm like right up there
with the angels. So who could last three whole
days, especially without at least one Hershey
What about Mordechai?
Who wouldn't need to stop back home once in a
while? Mordechai was out there in the palace
court yard, 24/7. Didn't he want to like ... go
for a little run or grab a cup of coffee or
something? Haman should have been kissing him
not criticizing him. After all, where do you get
that kind of free security service for the
Haman started the
concept of a lottery-Which put into action goes
something like this -everyone gives and only one
person wins. If Purim flips it over -everyone
Things are kind of
turned on their head on Purim.
Instead of dressing up
people are throwing up.
Instead of cheering the
Baal koray in Shul they’re booing him!
Instead of kids being
quieted down they are riled up.
What's all the reversal
It's about one thing!
We just don't know
what's going on in this world. Only Gd does.
There is no normal. What
we see is not what we get. Gd can turn “it" all
around in a minute! A three day fast can seem
like no time! And a challenge can disappear in
the blink of an eye -if Gd so chooses.
Let that sink in as you
go wild on Purim! And what appears to be good
or bad may not really be so in the giant scheme
Purim - It's not a big
lottery with all unknown!
Vinahapichu - reverse
your thinking!! Purim >"Mirup"
“Please G-d, let me partner with You
and go beyond my constrictions to a
place of expansiveness. Everything that
happens is part of Your perfect training
& development program for me. Help me
respond in the most noble way- help me
judge favorably, have compassion, let go
of having to be in control and give it
over to You, G-d. Please bless me with
an amazing year of walking with YOU.”
1. G-D, You have an incredible
vision for all of humanity and for me. I
want to fulfill Your vision of greatness
for me more and more. Please show me
what I most need to see gently.
2. I want to recognize the gifts in
my life and see the totality of the life
You gave me, the blessings and the
challenges, as an expression of Your
love. Please fill my heart with
3. I want to transcend my greatest
obstacles to fulfill Your vision for me.
Please help me partner with You and go
from a place of constraints to a place
4. Please bless me with all the
resources I need to fulfill Your vision
for me. (health, clarity,
relationships, a job, place to live
5. I want to make You King by living
myself more according to Your Definition
of reality and Your instructions for
living. Please guide me.
6. I resolve that I want to be
connected to You, G-D, as the source of
my wellbeing in life. And not rely on
ANYTHING or ANYONE else. Please help me
remember that no one else has power.
7. I resolve that this moment is the
dawn of a new era in my life.
I stand before You, the Creator of
the Universe, my loving Father, I look
at the Rosh Hashanah prayer and of
course I want to be connected to You as
the source of all life, and be the
beautiful person You created me to be; I
definitely don’t want any of the
mistaken choices of the past to stand in
the way. Please help me repair whatever
needs fixing. I want this year to be
greater than any year I’ve ever had and
I want to be a bigger person than I’ve
ever been. Not just for my own sake but
for the Jewish people and humanity.
Please help me ask for the right things
and help me understand Your loving
I want today to be the dawn of a new
era in my life.
G-d, You know what I’m facing inside and
outside, please help me. “
Sundays only at 8:15am at 386 Felter Avenue,
Women gather to recite and hear at least 100
morning blessings so as to fulfill the mitzvah
of doing so. If you know of someone who is ill,
please feel free to call and provide the group
with the Hebrew name, so that those who are
present may pray for him or her. Haidee
Mondays at 4:15
pm (3-5 Year Olds) - a half hour
program of stories and a short
Tuesdays at 6:30 pm (Grades 4
- 7) Registration
- January 12 Program:
February 10 The
Theif Lord By: Cornelia
- February 9 Program:
To Be Announced
Time: Thursdays at 10:30am
(24 - 35 months) - A lively half-hour
of songs, stories, fingerplays,
movement and a short film for
a child accompanied by an adult.
Fridays at 10:00
am (12-23 months) - Programs of
songs, finger plays, nursery rhymes
and board books for very young
readers accompanied by a parent
Workshop: Thursdays at
10:00-11:15 (12-35 months)
A special program that encourages
parents to play, sing and do finger
plays with their children. Specialists
in the fields of Speech and Hearing,
Behavior and Development, Nutrition,
and Dance/Movement are available
at various sessions. Registration
is required and is being accepted
in the children's room.
with Arnold Rosenbaum:
Wednesdays at 1:00pm
The Defining Moment - FDR's First
Hundred Days and the Triumph of
Hope by Jonathan Alter. January
Economic Problems Facing the Middle
Class .Mr. Rosenbaum will present
his thoughts on the socioeconomic
problems facing the American middle
class. March 14
Be The Food of Love...Shakespeare
In Love: Sunday, January
7 at 2:30pm. New York jazz vocalist
Christiana Drapkin celebrates
the beauty and power of William
Shakespeare's poetry and presents
it in lively, sometimes haunting,
jazz arrangements. The songs are
direct quotations from Shakespeare's
plays. Tickets required.
and American Art:
January 8 at 1:00 pm. Picasso
is acknowledged by many as the
central figure of the modern movement.
Art historian Mary Vahey will
examine the sometimes worshipful,
sometimes testy relationship between
American artists and the Picasso,
the immensely inventive Spaniard.
January 17 at 1:00pm. Corliss
Whitney, the honorary historian
of the Rockette Alumnae, shares
poignant stories about her years
as a Rockette during the 40's
Way to Health - Humor
Therapy: Wednesday, January 24
at 1:00pm. A presentation that
will focus on the latest studies
that scientifically prove and
explain how and why laughter IS
the best medicine.
Does Merman: Sunday February
4 at 2:30pm. Songs and stories
celebrating Ethel Mermans brilliant
career will be brought to PPL
by vocalist Lisa Berman. Tickets
and Ancient Land of Contrasts:
Thursday, February 8 at 1:00pm.
Through lecture and slides, Sally
Wendkos Olds will guide you on
a journey to another world of
exotic beauty and ancient splendor.
and/or Poets: Wednesday,
February 14 at 1:00pm. Arnie Rosenbaum
will share the poetic lyrics of
Ira Gershwin, Alan J. Lerner and
Larry Hart. You decide if the
great lyricists of the 20th century
really were master poets.
Tiffany and Laurelton Hall
An Artists Country Estate: Monday,
March 19 at 1:00pm. Ines Powell,
Metropolitan Museum of Art educator,
will present an illustrated lecture
which will bring together many
of the architectural elements
and design features of Tiffany's
extraordinary country estate in
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